Therapy for Relationship Difficulties in Glasgow

How relationships and mental health are connected

Relationships shape us. From our earliest experiences with caregivers, we develop patterns of relating that influence how we connect with others throughout life. These patterns can be a source of deep comfort and security. They can also be a source of real pain.

Many people notice that the same kinds of difficulties show up again and again in their relationships. You might find yourself drawn to partners who are emotionally unavailable, or notice that you pull away when someone gets close. Perhaps you struggle to say no, put others' needs ahead of your own, or feel a constant fear of rejection. These are not character flaws. They are learned patterns, often rooted in early attachment experiences, that made sense at the time but now get in the way.

Relationship difficulties and mental health are closely intertwined. Problems in relationships can contribute to depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and feelings of loneliness. At the same time, mental health difficulties can strain relationships further. Therapy offers a way to understand and gently shift these cycles.

What relationship therapy looks like

Our approach to relationship therapy is individual rather than couples-based. This means we work with you one-to-one to explore your relational patterns, understand where they come from, and find new ways forward. It is not about fixing a particular relationship. It is about understanding yourself within relationships.

Therapy begins with a thorough assessment and formulation. Your psychologist will take time to understand your history, your current difficulties, and the patterns that keep showing up. This shared understanding becomes the foundation for the work ahead.

We draw on several evidence-based approaches depending on what fits best for you:

• Schema Therapy: particularly well suited to deep relational patterns. Schema Therapy helps you identify the core emotional needs that were not fully met in childhood and the coping strategies you developed as a result. It uses cognitive, behavioural, and experiential techniques to help you build healthier ways of getting those needs met in adult relationships.
• Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT): helpful when relationship difficulties are accompanied by harsh self-criticism, shame, or a belief that you are somehow undeserving of love. CFT helps you develop a warmer, more compassionate relationship with yourself, which often changes how you relate to others too.
• CBT: can be effective for specific patterns such as anxious thinking in relationships, avoidance of difficult conversations, or unhelpful assumptions about what others think of you.

For many people, relational patterns run deep. Longer-term therapy is often the most appropriate path, giving you the time and space to explore, understand, and gradually change how you connect with others.

Common relationship difficulties we work with

Every person's experience is different, but there are some common themes we see in our work:

• Attachment anxiety: a strong need for reassurance and closeness, fear of abandonment, difficulty tolerating uncertainty in relationships.
• Attachment avoidance: pulling away when relationships become close, discomfort with emotional intimacy, valuing independence to the point of isolation.
• People-pleasing: consistently putting others' needs first, difficulty saying no, suppressing your own feelings to keep the peace.
• Boundary difficulties: struggling to set or maintain healthy limits, feeling responsible for others' emotions, or finding that your boundaries are regularly crossed.
• Trust after betrayal: difficulty trusting again after infidelity, broken promises, or other relational wounds.
• Staying in unhealthy dynamics: recognising that a relationship is harmful but feeling unable to leave, often connected to patterns of emotional dependency or fear of being alone.
• Loneliness and disconnection: feeling isolated even when surrounded by people, difficulty forming or maintaining meaningful connections.

You do not need to fit neatly into any of these categories. If something feels off in how you relate to others, that is enough reason to explore it.

Our relationship psychologists

Several members of our team have particular expertise in relational difficulties, attachment, and interpersonal patterns.

Dr Humera Millar brings expertise in how trauma and attachment shape relationship patterns.

Dr Julia McCallum specialises in interpersonal difficulties and relational patterns using CAT and CFT.

Dr Jessica Wainman-Lefley brings expertise in Schema Therapy for deep relational patterns and personality difficulties.

View our full team to find the right clinician for you, or get in touch and we will help match you with someone who fits your needs.